What's also interesting is the changing nature of the posts. Previously requests to post anon were typically of a sensitive nature - perhaps the loss of a pregnancy when friends hadn't been told, or something the poster considered embarrassing.
What's troubled me a little since this shift, is the increase in the number of requests for a repost because they don't want people to know they are still breastfeeding. That their friend's, sister caught a previous statement update and commented that "OMG I didn't know she was still breastfeeding" (and we're not talking school age children, but beyond 6 months or around 1-2 yrs) and thus they want to avoid that again.
I then began wondering how many more people breastfeeding beyond six months never mention it to anyone, because they don't have the need to ask a question. We could have a whole heap of "underground nursers" that never feature in the infant feeding stats!
I understand it's private, that people don't have to share details of how they feed their baby, that it's nobody else's business; but I have to wonder, what comes first the chicken or the egg? If people don't ever discuss breastfeeding beyond the tiny weeks, how will we ever stop the OMG reaction, the thing that is in turn stopping people wanting to share? Isn't it a vicious cycle of one perpetuating the other?
Furthermore the posters are asking a question because they need help and information, and surely keeping breastfeeding underground only serves to hinder more wide spread sharing of such information in the community? In putting common knowledge back in place?

Sure someone may "OMG" the first time they read someone is still breastfeeding an eighteen month old, but that's only because it's so infrequently heard. If that was seen lots, it would soon lose it's shock value - it would become normalised. And mums would no longer have to breastfeed in secret.
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