tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post4218263079152766064..comments2023-10-28T08:22:06.196+01:00Comments on Analytical Armadillo: Deny The Super Power Of Your Breasts!Analytical Armadillo IBCLChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03829027807809292649noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-63661636769006283962012-11-15T23:14:18.498+00:002012-11-15T23:14:18.498+00:00I might add that suffocation and sids are two tota...I might add that suffocation and sids are two totally different things and guilting new moms into making decisions isn't right.. not at all Dallashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09174278281043103150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-35916894011633023662012-11-15T23:10:12.679+00:002012-11-15T23:10:12.679+00:00I hate that cosleeping is so taboo for our generat...I hate that cosleeping is so taboo for our generation. Its so bad here that child protective services will investigate if a mother admits to co sleeping without a side car..smh <br />I'm pretty sure back in the day they didnt build side cars for beds.. my daughter is 9 weeks old and has slept in my bed next to me every single night since she was born.. all 3 of us sleep better that way. She wakes up and needs a drink/snack she nustles into mommy's chest and helps herself. Mommy's have primal instincts built in that allow us to sleep deeply enough to get restful sleep but lightly enough to realize when baby has rolled herself somewhere she needn't be. Why does our generation think that somehow we are a different species than our ancestors with no survival skills? I seriously don't get it. I find it fascinating that I can keep my daughter alive and thriving with nothing more than my warm embrace loving touch and my breasts for nourishment. Why are we so weird? It seems from 1980 onward all people born were programmed to ignore nature and completely depend on western medicine. Our local health department even sends new moms home with onesies that read "this side up" on the front and then further states, to prevent sids place baby alone in a crib on its back with no covers bumpers toys pillows or blankets...now tell me the last time you tried to sleep on a hard flat mattress without a pillow or blanket..<br /><br />I'm sorry maybe I'm a bad mother but I feel there are several ways to safely co sleep and still have a comfortable baby. <br /><br />And if we aren't allowed to soothe to sleep when is the right time? Or are we just supposed to emotionally scar our children and never show them any affection? <br />Awesome 2012..good jobDallashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09174278281043103150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-31244603490303689402012-10-13T07:56:37.626+01:002012-10-13T07:56:37.626+01:00Hi Alice
My DD used to have a real hard time falli...Hi Alice<br />My DD used to have a real hard time falling asleep and would only crash when exhausted, and I didn't regularly feed her to sleep! - truth was that's just how she was (for various reasons we now understand better) super switched on like the Duracell Bunny Baby post.<br />So perhaps sometimes rather than the feeding to sleep being the cause of the problem, bfing is just an amazing relaxant that works on even those who normally struggle to switch off and relax?<br />My second was fed to sleep yet would settle for others without absolutely fine and the consensus on FB seems to be others find their groove - several said nursery/CM just put baby in to a cot and they slept, others that the CM found their own way ie a cuddle/pushchair etc - what many said was baby didn't expect milk from others and would settle in different ways for them, even if they wanted feeding to sleep from mum..<br />Just ponderings...Analytical Armadillo IBCLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03829027807809292649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-45485364082271628452012-10-13T06:30:28.671+01:002012-10-13T06:30:28.671+01:00I agree with what you're saying, and I fed my ...I agree with what you're saying, and I fed my son to sleep and am regularly doing the same with my baby, but I think a major problem is that most women (including myself) have to leave their babies at a year, or before, and if they're used to feeding to sleep it is hard for anyone else to get them to sleep. So my son would only fall asleep for the childminder when he was completely exhausted, meaning that he napped too late and went to bed too late. Now that I'm off work again I've stopped him napping usually, but this means he's constantly complaining of tiredness and we spend much of the afternoon trying to keep him awake! I'm not saying sleep training is the solution, but I don't know what is. Of course this is anecdotal, and I my find that my daughter transitions into falling asleep without feeding or slinging once she gets older.Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08204695375358616797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-41747940117738473062012-10-08T20:39:56.759+01:002012-10-08T20:39:56.759+01:00So what do you think the root causes are?? Telling...So what do you think the root causes are?? Telling people it's not the boob association isn't helpful without giving an idea of what it might be or what to do about it.<br /><br />Anon1 ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-78682812035997512762012-10-08T17:24:26.719+01:002012-10-08T17:24:26.719+01:00Good point amusingly put, and brilliant timing for...Good point amusingly put, and brilliant timing for me - thank you! My little one is fast approaching 9 months and lately I've been getting LOTS of 'advice' from mums/health visitors/relations who can't believe I'm still feeding to sleep/co-sleeping/letting her comfort feed when she needs to at night; indeed I was considering just lying about it all when next asked! It doesn't bother me, and it's so reassuring to be reminded it needn't :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-18749057741681121222012-10-07T23:23:09.098+01:002012-10-07T23:23:09.098+01:00I had a conversation the other day, in which I men...I had a conversation the other day, in which I mentioned that for the first time ever, DD fell asleep ON HER OWN the other night. The people I was talking to said something like 'yes, our kids learned to do that at 6 months - we left them crying in the cot and they went to sleep'. I said that I wasn't prepared to do that and one of them then remembered that my DD had had a lot of sleep issues, including very frequent waking, resulting from her tongue tie, which was only spotted and cut at 9 months. 'Ah yes,' he said, 'but your daughter had a real problem, it would have been cruel to leave her crying.' 'Yes,' said I, 'but we didn't know she had a problem all the time she was waking up and crying. We just responded to her as best we could.' <br />He didn't have an answer to that, but I hope it made him think.Helen - family-friends-foodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09020026560810254267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-19151839131472225462012-10-07T21:43:36.186+01:002012-10-07T21:43:36.186+01:00I think we are too busy trying to rush the sleep t...I think we are too busy trying to rush the sleep thing. My toddler is 2 years, 4 months old and feeds to sleep. She also wakes in the night for a feed. (or two, or more...I don't keep track)<br /><br />Several nights a week, she'll go to sleep without me. I lay next to her, sometimes holding her hand or touching her back, but she falls asleep without any "help". <br /><br />I can see from her behaviour that the time will come when she won't need me to relax and drift off at all. But there isn't a timetable and there isn't a way of knowing when it will happen. But my 5 year old still needs cuddles and hand-holding before drifting off, so why should I push my 2 year old? <br /><br />This is the longest I have ever nursed a child, and I'm excited to participate in this long-term breastfeeding relationship. I find it fascinating. My boobs truly are magical. :pAvtar Ram Kaurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14788058935893109235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-12587639388415304432012-10-07T21:14:36.700+01:002012-10-07T21:14:36.700+01:00AA as always you just talk sense. Thank you.
(in...AA as always you just talk sense. Thank you. <br /><br />(incidentally I think the fundamental problem is the taboo around co-sleeping. If it wasn't seen as weird/pathological/dangerous, then most babies would feed on demand at night and neither the parents nor the babies would notice or wake up. Ergo no sleep "problems" and no need for sleep "training". Mums wouldn't become mentally ill due to sleep deprivation. But this won't change till society becomes less obsessed with creating physical distance between ourselves and our children from the day they are born.) marinellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-89140670096371978472012-10-07T20:55:47.759+01:002012-10-07T20:55:47.759+01:00QUOTE till, sleep association is a huge factor and...QUOTE till, sleep association is a huge factor and many babies with light sleep cycles (a transition stage that comes all the way out of sleep instead of going to REM on its own) learn/feel that they must have a breast in their mouth in order to get back to sleep.<br /><br />So I keep hearing but where is the evidence for this? My first had this issue and wasn't fed to sleep, my second and many others I've supported transition fine. I wish parents could get effective support to address WHY their child is waking (because I personally don't buy the association thing) because I do think they can be trained out of waking sometimes depending upon the nature of the child, without addressing the root cause that could potentially cause further problems down the line in a totally different area.<br />AAAnalytical Armadillo IBCLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03829027807809292649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-77209561385643843162012-10-07T20:47:34.389+01:002012-10-07T20:47:34.389+01:00I totally agree. But I also know that as babies ge...I totally agree. But I also know that as babies get older, some are still waking every 1-2hours and there are many moms who feel that they are becoming mentally ill. The advice to begin teaching the child to fall asleep a minute or two after the breast is a real lifesaver, and so much much more gentle than cry-it-out. My experience as a gentle sleep coach and in my community is that there can be a number as large as 25% of babies who between 6 months -18mo might many nights wake every 45minutes-2hours. My child had "central sleep apnea" but as it turns out, this is a natural condition of many babies to varying degrees as the central nervous system matures over time. Still, sleep association is a huge factor and many babies with light sleep cycles (a transition stage that comes all the way out of sleep instead of going to REM on its own) learn/feel that they must have a breast in their mouth in order to get back to sleep. I think the reason sleep coaches (most of them awful CIO!) exist is that there is actually that large number of babies who don't sleep well without help and parents really are desperate for sanity. I wish there was a way that those parents could get gentle help from professionals without sleep trainers making it seem like little ones are supposed to sleep through the night and also without making parents feel bad for trying to get help to stay free of mental illness. Most people should let their children gradually mature out of sleep trouble with healthy co-sleeping and breastfeeding- but there are also some who don't see progress for a very long time. What do you think? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-1478703208032672172012-10-07T20:46:14.034+01:002012-10-07T20:46:14.034+01:00Great job and I love the comparison to standing......Great job and I love the comparison to standing...hopefully this will help some people really "get it"!Kelli - New Age Hippy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07079764486009055735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-1734782014515676912012-10-07T20:45:47.528+01:002012-10-07T20:45:47.528+01:00Love this article. I'd be interested in the in...Love this article. I'd be interested in the info on babies waking between every sleep cycle as well pleaseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-13170810968661465172012-10-07T20:44:03.771+01:002012-10-07T20:44:03.771+01:00Fantastic! Such a great article and refreshing to ...Fantastic! Such a great article and refreshing to read. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-25780285751025398752012-10-07T20:36:54.391+01:002012-10-07T20:36:54.391+01:00Brilliant! Brilliant! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-61241247844637851312012-10-07T20:27:38.827+01:002012-10-07T20:27:38.827+01:00I love it! But could you please link to an article...I love it! But could you please link to an article on the possible causes for babies not transitioning easily between sleep cycles? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3102141287849407838.post-77875963423023623362012-10-07T18:41:30.088+01:002012-10-07T18:41:30.088+01:00Couldn't agree more!Couldn't agree more!mumjuicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18223122181093091529noreply@blogger.com